What Did You Say?

I don't think I can even put into words how important communication is in a relationship.  Personally, I think it ranks right up there with love.  Actually, I will be bold enough to say that it may be more important than love because communication is the reason why we fall in love or out of love with someone.  Especially in my situation being separated from my spouse, keeping the lines of communication open is vital.  Not just for us, but for our children as well.  This past weekend, my husband and I had a  misunderstanding.  A few weeks ago, he advised me of the manner in which he was going to handle an agreement that we have established. When I asked him about it last Friday, he looked confused.  As I reminded him of our conversation a few weeks back he said, "Oh, that may have been what I said but that is not what I meant."  I was waiting for someone to jump out with a t.v.camera to tell me I was being punked or being filmed for a reality television show.  I couldn't believe what I was hearing.  I wanted to say some words that I haven't said in years (#$@&%*) but the mature side of me knew that would not be the best thing to do.  I had to practice what I tell my children, it's not what you say, it's how you say it.  I don't think that I will ever understand why it is so difficult for some people to say what they mean and mean what they say.  Many issues wouldn't even be issues if we learn the skill of effective communication.

We did resolve our issue peacefully. I decided to let him live because I didn't want to be incarcerated for Mother's Day.  Just kidding, we did resolve it peacefully.  I have to remember that he is not a great communicator and I have hope for growth for him in this area because it is never too late to learn. 

Have a great Mother's day  to all the Mothers and those who are Mother figures in someone's life.  

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