Wedding Bells

One of my closest friends just recently remarried.  I am so happy for her.  I have been on this journey with her from her divorce to the new marriage and everything in between.  To listen to her talk about her husband and the love they have for each other is so amazing and heart warming.  It inspires me because I want to experience this type of love in a marriage.

We were made to love and be loved.  God loved the world so much that he gave us His Son.  We were made in His image!  So when I hear women say I don't need a man or men say that I don't need a woman, I don't think they actually realize what they are saying.  We do need each other in this life.  YES- you may be able to pay your own bills,  YES-you should love your self before you can expect anyone else to love you, YES- you should be happy with yourself and a mate should add to that happiness. But if God, the creator of love, desires for us to be in relationship with him, who are we to say we don't need love or anyone.  Sometimes we say certain things because we have been hurt and don't want to experience the hurt again. We put on a strong front to pretend like we're not hurting because we don't want the world to know.  There was a time when I said that I would never get married again but that isn't the way I feel know.  I felt that way  because I was hurting and didn't want to be in that position to hurt again.

Remember when we kids playing, tripped and fell over something and hurt ourselves.  We may have cried a little but we got up and started playing again.  We learned that we had to avoid the thing we tripped over that caused us to get hurt if we wanted to have a good time playing.  If we couldn't avoid it, we would go play somewhere else because nothing was going to stop us from having a good time.  Or maybe you were one of those kids that learned that hard way.  You didn't want to change playgrounds and continued to get hurt over and over again. Eventually, you learned that you should go play somewhere else.  We can use these childhood  lessons in our adult life.

I love the concept of marriage and desire to be married again.  Marriage is wonderful, we as people mess it up.  Should everyone be married or will everyday be wedded bliss, of course not!  I just feel that before we say till death do us part, we should be equally yoked on many levels so when we trip and hurt ourselves we stay on the same playground.

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