Snow Days

I looked out the window yesterday to see what another east coast snow storm had left behind.  I did not look forward to shoveling snow.  The kids and I went outside.  Everyone was doing their part to get this accomplished.  The snow wasn't actually that deep and it was very light and easy to move.  It didn't take long to see concrete on my walkway, driveway and steps.  I put off shoveling for hours because I didn't feel like being bothered but it had to be done. I couldn't help but think that this is how some of us deal with marriages or even relationships in general.  The snow (our problems)  falls on the ground (our marriages or relationships) and it covers up a nice clean surface.  We make excuses why we don't want to shovel at the moment (that is deal with our problems).  It's too cold, I'm tired,or I will deal with it later.  The excuses are endless.  If only we would have shoveled earlier, the snow would have been easier to move.  Or, I should say  if only we had dealt with our problems together earlier, the marriage may not have  come to this place.

Just as I stated earlier, "everyone was doing their part to get this accomplished."  I want to say that you can not make an adult shovel if they don't want to.  You think, that when you say the words "I Do," you have a shoveling partner.  Unfortunately, that is not always the case.  Being in the middle of the snow storm is not the right time to find out if your spouse is willing to shovel.  Regarding my husband and myself, I will not say which one of us didn't want to shovel  because it's not about blaming anyone.  What I am saying is that before you take that walk down the aisle, please make sure that you have a partner who is willing to help you shovel through the snow storms, even blizzards in your marriage.   Be advised, you don't have to shovel because eventually all the snow and ice will melt away.  Spring will come, the flowers will bloom and you forget about all that snow that was once on your lawn.  But, the summer heat always follows Spring !