Are you living or are you existing? This is a question that I asked myself. The answer is that for the first time in my life, I am LIVING! Some may think, that is a silly statement. Of course you are living. How could you not be living when you are writing this weekly blog? To that I say, I had been existing on this earth for many years. Yes, there have been joyous times in my life and pleasurable experiences. But as I look back over my adult years, I was primarily existing. Same routine everyday (being a mom, wife, errands, chores, etc). I was so busy taking care of everything, I only stopped to live once in a while. I have learned that you only get one chance to live your life. You must make the best of every situation. We can not control everything that happens to us, but we do have control in how we respond. I could dwell in the fact that I wasted too many years not enjoying life, but what good would that do. I live by the fact that it is never to late to change your life. No matter how old you are, as long as you still have breath in your body you can live! Instead of existing in defeat, I choose to speak life over myself and my situation. Should have, would have, and could have are a group of people I stopped hanging around a while ago.
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Currently in a situation and the question I keep having is why did I get married. Its been 4 years now. Short time for some but for me its been very long. Is it really about being happy and enjoying each other in life or is it all about the business of maintaining house and family and to top it all of. I'm a Christ believer. That's makes it even harder to uncloud my mind. Is this gods will can't be because I'm not happy but then again Christ suffered so is this my suffering for Christ...
ReplyDeleteI totally understand because I am a believer as well. That is one of the reasons why I stayed in limbo for so long. The thing to remember is that God gives us free will. This free will applies to marriage as well. God loves us and it is not his will for us to be unhappy. John 10:10 says The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly (NKJV). I pray that you and your spouse seek God in this situation and he will guide you. Thank you for your comment and I pray that the blog has been a source of help for you. God bless.
Deletewe have started counseling and im just not in love anymore. everyone says god can restore and i do believe that but im just not sure if i have the will to restore this or if i will ever be the same and fully love him as i did before my heart had change. i really enjoy your blogspot. just haveing an outlet is great for me. i feel like people just dont understand because they havent been in my shoes. i have a good husband now but is it too late... time will tell however i dont want it to be 20 years in and all for nothing . just pray that god makes things clear for me. my husband loves me and is doing all that he can to prove that love and my heart just rejects him i dont want it to be like that but i have a wall up and not sure how to tear it down
ReplyDeleteYes, God can restore if that is what you desire. God can only work with a willing vessel. Ephesians 3:20 is one of my favorite scriptures. I am glad that you are enjoying my blog and find that it is a place to connect with someone who understands. You are absolutely correct, people don't understand if they haven't been in your shoes.
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