Please Don't Stay Stuck

Just the other day, my estranged spouse was talking to me about taking the girls on a trip for spring break and asked if I would go.  I said no.  I began to search the recesses of my mind because I clearly remember telling him before that I would not travel with him and our children like everything was fine.  We had to start doing things differently.  Maybe he thought I would change my mind. I am not trying to live in the past.  I am truly going on without him.  There are times that I think he forgets that things have really changed and that the marriage is over.  I am sensitive of his feelings to an extent.  We were together for many, many years as husband and wife so old habits die hard.  But, I am not willing to comprise myself and all of the hard work I have done to get to this place in my life where I am happy.  I refuse to go backwards!  In the words of Sweet Brown, "Ain't Nobody Got Time For That!"  
I know in time he will move forward at a faster pace.  There are times that I wish it were sooner than later.  People fear change and the unknown. Therefore, holding on to the past and what is familiar is a place of comfort.  In the interim, I remain thankful that we are friends and loving parents to our girls as I continue to Move Forward.

“If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk, if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”

― Martin Luther King Jr.

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year !  Wow, I can not believe that it is a new year again.  Where did 2014 go?  It is a time for new beginnings and new possibilities.  Typically every year we say that we are going to do things differently.  But do we really?  I firmly believe that we start off with good intentions and want to do things differently, but we get side tracked somewhere around late January or February.  Some of us may even make it to March.  I believe the truth is that not many of us follow through with the changes that we want to make in the new year for various reasons.  There are only a faithful few that set goals and follow through with them.  I did make a vision board in 2014 and to be honest, I accomplished maybe one or two things on the board.  My plan is to do better in 2015 with goal setting and accomplishment.

It is something different about 2015 for me that has been different in past new years.  Not just the fact that I am starting the new year in a new home without my husband and embarking on new dreams and goals.  I honestly, feel that this year is going to be a stellar year for me.  All of the tears of disappointment and loss that I have cried over the years have watered my garden of blessings long enough.  The crops of blessings have grown and are waiting for me to harvest them.  Too much water will destroy the crops.  The watering season 2014 is over.  Harvest time 2015 is now !  Remember, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results (Albert Einstein). 
 Staying in this same vein, there is an adage that says "Put your money where your mouth is. "  So I have decided to do something a little different as I close out this blog. Some of you reading this know who I am but there are some who do not.  I chose to write anonymously in 2014 when I started the blog because I wanted to have some privacy.  I believe now is the time for the world to know who I am because I have an assignment in this world and I have a strong passion within me to let men and women in my position know that I understand the pain  of being separated.  I understand how it feels to not want anyone to know, especially your family.  I understand how it feels to not want your kids to know that Mommy and Daddy are having problems and the looks in their eyes when you tell them that Dad is moving out.  I understand not wanting to be apart of the married couples ministry at church because you are not with your spouse and not able to be apart of the singles ministry because you are not single.  This is one of the reasons why I started the blog!  I also understand that it is now time for me to identify who I am because there are men and women out there some where who need help with this process but will not open up if they don't know whose blog they are reading.  Let me introduce myself to some, and reintroduce myself to others.  My name is Kimberly Redditt, it is a pleasure to meet you and I am Moving Forward!  Please help me with getting my message out to those who need healing.  I encourage you to share my blog with everyone you know.  Remember often times people only tell you what they want you to know. Our family and friends may be hurting and we don't know because they don't feel comfortable sharing or may be too embarrassed to open up to you.  I want to help them Move Forward.