We had the hearing on yesterday and we are now divorced. It went as peacefully as I had prayed for. We actually met with my attorney a month prior and prepared a consent order so the judge would not have to make any decisions for us. Some things we did not agree on, however we did come up with an agreement that we both could live with. On the morning before the divorce hearing, I was a little sad and did shed a few tears. The marriage was about to be officially over. My aunt, who was my witness, asked me if I was sure I wanted to do this. I even asked myself the same question as I sat in my car waiting for her to come out of the house so we could make our way to court. The answer was, "Yes, I am sure. We have a great friendship now. Better than we ever had during our 22 years of marriage. I would rather have the great friend that I have now, then remain married and we can't stand each other." We could not stay stuck in marital separation. We had been separated for over a year and were not working towards reconciliation. It was time to move forward and file for the divorce.
After I was in the courtroom, the feeling of sadness left. The funny thing is my ex-husband said that he too had shed a few tears before court and then felt better upon arriving in the courtroom. After the hearing, he treated us to lunch. We actually had a great time. I was thinking , I wonder how many other couples do this after their divorce hearing. Well, I'm glad that we have a friendship in which we could do this. I never imagined that being separated and going through divorce would bring us closer as friends. We went through some growing pains during this process but I honestly believe that we are now wiser and more mature after going through it. I am ready to Move Forward into my next level in life and I pray for nothing but the best for him.
The title of this post has a dual meaning. Not only is the marriage finished, but this will be my last blog post for Moving Forward. The blog will remain up because my assignment is to help others by sharing my experience as I went through my process. This part of my life is now over and I have Moved Forward and peacefully divorced. It is time to focus on new things. Life is full of unlimited possibilities and opportunities. I have faith that new doors are opening for me because I am now in the right position to walk through them.
No matter how bad things seem, believe in faith that they will get better and they will. Keep the Faith, Stay Positive, and Move Forward!
