Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Changing Lanes

Lately, my estranged husband has been on my mind.  I don’t want to reconcile, but I find myself reminiscing about fun times and funny moments that we had with the girls.  I'm pretty sure this is a part of that emotional roller coaster you experience when going through divorce.  It is true what they say about an idle mind.  I will be honest and admit that there have been days when I think “Am I doing the right thing?” Even though we are in a good space, I have to check myself and remember the reasons we are not together and why I filed for divorce.  We have changed for the better as people,but some of the issues cannot be repaired.  Just because you are good people does not mean that you are good together.  You have to forgive yourself and the other person to be free and just move on.   I am definitely not trying to live in the past or open up old wounds.  I just want to make sure I am changing lanes safely. On the road of life (just like driving a car) in order to change lanes safely, you have to do a quick head check to make sure the way is clear and that there are no obstacles in your way as you change lanes and proceed to Move Forward.