Part I
Sometimes this divorce process has me feeling like a hamster running on the wheel that keeps going around, around, around, and around. Whew!!! Now I’m dizzy. He still has not been served with the divorce papers. He did not make it to the post office in time to pick up the certified letter, so now I must have him served within the next 7 days before the 60 day deadline is over (that is 60 days from the date that my attorney filed the paper work with the court). If not, then a petition has to be sent to the court to extend the deadline. At this rate, I will be receiving social security before I am divorced. O.K. , now that I have gotten that off my chest and reminded myself that these attorney fees are only temporary, I know that all things work together for my good and it will happen in God’s time not in mine.
Sometimes this divorce process has me feeling like a hamster running on the wheel that keeps going around, around, around, and around. Whew!!! Now I’m dizzy. He still has not been served with the divorce papers. He did not make it to the post office in time to pick up the certified letter, so now I must have him served within the next 7 days before the 60 day deadline is over (that is 60 days from the date that my attorney filed the paper work with the court). If not, then a petition has to be sent to the court to extend the deadline. At this rate, I will be receiving social security before I am divorced. O.K. , now that I have gotten that off my chest and reminded myself that these attorney fees are only temporary, I know that all things work together for my good and it will happen in God’s time not in mine.
Part II
This past weekend we were on college tours for our
oldest daughter. Because of the pending divorce, we stayed in separate rooms. However we did drive together. This was a
new first for us. The kids were not bothered by it at all. The youngest two were just concerned about
getting in the pool. When we checked into the hotel,
I was going to make a joke about him being my brother travelling with me and
the girls however I decided not to. I
didn’t want to take the risk of hurting his feelings because I was not sure emotionally how he was dealing with this. It felt a tad bit strange for me when we arrived, but that feeling did not last long. We even saw someone in the hotel that is really good friends with one of his siblings. She was actually staying in the room next to him. I laughed and thought what are the chances!
As we toured the colleges and walked through the streets of NYC , the thought did cross my mind that from outward appearances we must look like the "perfect family"- husband, wife, and kids. I guess that old adage is true, you can not judge a book by its cover. It was a good weekend for everyone and our daughter was able to remove a college from her list. She said it just did not feel like a good fit for her. After completing the tour, we had some time to visit the September 11th Memorial, Time Square, and visit a few stores. Now it was time to head home. We arrived back home and dropped him off at his house. The girls said bye to their dad and I thanked him for doing all the driving ( I do not like driving in NYC and he is great with directions). Then we drove to our home. While on the drive to our house, the girls where talking about 4 years from now the next oldest daughter will be applying to college and going on college tours. They talked about that trip and the fact that there may be step-parents involved by that time (It is not a secret that I do desire to marry again). Even though we are dissolving our marriage, we will always be linked because of the three best things that came from that union. I am thankful that we both had the opportunity to share this experience with our daughter. We were not at odds with each other, we did not have any disagreements, we came together and made this thing work for our daughter. I am so proud of that fact because some divorcing spouses can not do that.
As we toured the colleges and walked through the streets of NYC , the thought did cross my mind that from outward appearances we must look like the "perfect family"- husband, wife, and kids. I guess that old adage is true, you can not judge a book by its cover. It was a good weekend for everyone and our daughter was able to remove a college from her list. She said it just did not feel like a good fit for her. After completing the tour, we had some time to visit the September 11th Memorial, Time Square, and visit a few stores. Now it was time to head home. We arrived back home and dropped him off at his house. The girls said bye to their dad and I thanked him for doing all the driving ( I do not like driving in NYC and he is great with directions). Then we drove to our home. While on the drive to our house, the girls where talking about 4 years from now the next oldest daughter will be applying to college and going on college tours. They talked about that trip and the fact that there may be step-parents involved by that time (It is not a secret that I do desire to marry again). Even though we are dissolving our marriage, we will always be linked because of the three best things that came from that union. I am thankful that we both had the opportunity to share this experience with our daughter. We were not at odds with each other, we did not have any disagreements, we came together and made this thing work for our daughter. I am so proud of that fact because some divorcing spouses can not do that.
