What Are You Expecting?

I am waiting for a court date to be set for the divorce.  Even though the paper work was filed in July, the case was not entered into the system until mid August.  When the information was entered, I discovered that the name listed for  my estranged husband was not correct nor was my address.  It was not just a misspelling of his name, it was a totally different name.  I was thinking after all the waiting, this is what happens! Really?! I am not even married to this person.  I don't even know who he is!  How will I get my summons to appear in court?  My attorney had to send a letter to the court regarding the corrections.  I had to calm myself and remember that all things work together for good so this mistake happened for some reason.  His name has just been corrected, however my address is still not correct.  I will deal with it whenever we have our hearing.  My attorney will receive a summons and will notify me.  Patience is not one of stronger attributes. The good thing is that I am honest enough to admit this and try to focus on other things while waiting.  Sometimes I have to stop myself from thinking negatively because those negative thoughts do creep in.  Thoughts like, I hope he doesn't get nasty when we have to discuss marital assets or this process will take forever.  Even though I consider myself a positive person, negatively will come.  The unfortunate thing is that most of us are wired to think negatively before we do positively.  Of course life issues will happen, but if you go through life expecting the worse, you will definitely experience the worst.  Even when something good happens, you probably won't even realize it.

I do truly believe that you will attract what you focus on the most, so I try to focus on positive and upbeat things.This even includes the people I interact with.  My friendship circle is extremely small.  The friendships and associates I have are with people who are positive and encouraging.  People who pray with me and for me.  Those who have traveled this road before me and made it to their destinations.  Even with the bends in the road they stayed focused and positive.  They have remarried and are doing well. I have discovered that you can learn something from everyone who God allows to cross your path in life be it temporary or long term.  Even those you don't like. There is always a life lesson be to learned or a nugget of wisdom gained.  It also gives you hope to know that your temporary set back can be your set up for and amazing future!